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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
Let me introduce you to today's guests.
The talented singer, Sun Mi!
Hello, everyone. It's nice to see you.
There are so many people who want to...
eat with him.
Yoo Min Sang!
Hello. I'm Yoo Min Sang.
(Yoo Min Sang, the big brother of foodies)
Comedienne Shim Jin Hwa!
(Shim Jin Hwa, the cute comedienne)
- Hello. - She looks pretty.
JR and Ren of NU’EST W!
(JR and Ren of NU’EST W)
Sun Mi, you didn't eat before coming here, right?
I ate some bread.
You eat so little.
- Where does your energy come from? - Exactly.
- I... - "Gashina" was so powerful too.
I think I just try to be determined and single-minded.
(She's exceptionally charismatic as well as determined.)
That might shorten your life span.
Your new song is also amazing, right?
Can you show us just a little bit?
(Excited)
("Siren" by Sun Mi)
(Getting mesmerized)
(She dances like an enchanting mermaid.)
(Irresistibly charming)
(Sunmi never disappoints.)
Jin Hwa, you became prettier after you got married.
- You lost weight too. - Really?
Do you have any secret to lose weight so quickly?
Well... My husband always loves me so much.
I'm jealous.
(Speechless)
- I'm jealous. - In fact,
they're famous for their excessive display of affection.
How many times do you guys kiss a day?
We celebrated our seventh anniversary this month.
So this is the eighth year of our marriage.
Nevertheless, when I wake up in the morning, Won Hyo...
tells me he loves me.
I think we kiss each other about 20 times a day.
Min Sang is close friends with Won Hyo.
I follow his social media account.
And I think there's an element of it being an act.
- Like a show window couple? - Yes.
- We never know the truth. - Right.
All I know is that Won Hyo always arrives at "Gag Concert" very early.
(All I know is that Won Hyo comes to work early.)
Min Sang, there's something we have in common.
- Gosh. - Tell me a good restaurant.
(Tell me a good one.)
(Since it's you who wants to know...)
In Gwangheungchang-dong near Seogang Bridge,
- Gwangheungchang-dong. - there's a restaurant...
that's famous for its mackerel kimchi stew.
- It sounds delicious. - How much is it for one portion?
Around the restaurant... I don't remember the price.
- I usually don't check the price. - I see.
(That's how a foodie should be.)
They use Norwegian mackerel, and it's so plump.
Norwegian mackerel has more fat than Korean mackerel.
Right. Under the kimchi, you see three mackerels.
(The fantastic harmony of kimchi and mackerel)
I heard the news. He's promoting the place so enthusiastically...
because he took over the restaurant two months ago.
No, I didn't. I can't even afford it.
That's not true.
I thought this was JR's first appearance on Hello.
- But I was wrong. - It's not his first appearance?
Seven years ago, "Seoul Broadcasting High School Special" was aired.
When we went to that school?
Yes. I was caught on camera briefly while sitting in the audience.
(We found the footage.)
My goodness.
- Oh, gosh. - He looks amazing.
(Awesome. I want to have that footage.)
- He hasn't changed at all. - How...
- How old were you at the time? - My goodness.
I think I was 18 back then.
- I see. - By the way,
Yeong Ja's bun hairstyle is famous, right?
- People wouldn't dare to touch it. - Yeong Ja's bun?
But JR grabbed her bun. How did you think of doing that?
I thought I might get killed if I grabbed it, but...
After that, he acted so cute to me, so he wouldn't get killed.
- He acted cute? - Yes.
- He acted cute. - Show us your cute acts.
One.
Two.
(Screaming)
A few of them could die in joy if he does it 10 times.
(The actual reaction of the audience)
However, he did it because his fans would love to see it.
But it must be hard for him.
After recording the show, he might smoke in the waiting room.
(You never know.)
Today, we have three stories as always.
Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
"Help My Daughter".
"Please Stop It".
"Biased Love".
He'll play the younger son, and he'll play the eldest son.
- Me? - Yes.
- He's the eldest son. - They don't look alike at all.
I'm a big brother for many reasons.
Hello.
I'm a housewife in my 30s. I have 4 and 9-year-old sons.
My husband is second to none when it comes to his affection for his son.
Then why am I worried?
"How cute. My second son, you're so adorable."
"Come to Dad. How adorable."
My husband is so affectionate for our second son, but...
"Hey, Park Ji An. Come here."
"Come here right now!"
He's a strict dad in front of our eldest son.
(Oh, no.)
"Dad, I want ice cream."
"All right. Shall we go out together to buy some ice cream?"
- "Dad, me too." - "No!"
"You don't get to eat ice cream."
He always says yes to our second son and no to our eldest son.
Even when we eat together...
"Honey, switch the seats with me."
"Why?"
"I can't eat in front of our eldest son. He ruins my appetite."
(I can't eat in front of our eldest son. He ruins my appetite.)
(Everyone is utterly shocked.)
- Is that true? - They are both our sons,
but why does he treat our first born like he was adopted?
"Honey, can't you adore our eldest son..."
"just as you do our second son?"
"I would adore him if he acts adorable."
"I don't know. I just like our second son the most."
(I love only our second son.)
I don't know what to do about my husband's ridiculous favoritism.
Can you help me to change my husband?
(Husband, stop discriminating our children!)
He's so mean.
(That's too much.)
What do you think? Tell us your opinion.
- I have an older brother. - I see.
My mother...
kind of discriminate against one of us.
- Which one? - She preferred me.
That's why his acting was so natural.
It was very natural.
For example, when a new model of a MP3 player was released,
she bought it for only me secretly.
- I hate it so much. - But my brother...
I'm sorry.
I have an older brother.
Whenever we ate grilled meat,
my mom would always say,
"This is the best part of the meat"...
as she grilled the fat and gave it to me.
Then she gave the lean meat to my brother.
The person who has been discriminated against...
- regardless of how young they were. - Of course.
(It's very upsetting.)
Let's meet the wife whose husband favors her second son.
Please come out.
(Who is worried because her husband favors her second son?)
(Kim Yoon Hee)
(Welcome.)
Does your husband favor your second son just as you wrote?
Yes. He calls our eldest son bluntly like this. "Park Ji An."
- Park Ji An. "Hey, Park Ji An." - Yes.
He calls our second son by his nickname with affection.
He rarely makes physical contact with our eldest son.
But with our second son, he kisses him and rubs his cheek on his.
When our eldest son asks him to go out for a walk with him,
he never goes out with him.
But when our second son asks him to go out for a walk with him,
my husband holds his hand and goes out.
- For a walk. - Your eldest son must be upset.
Your second son is much younger than the eldest son and cute.
Could he pay extra attention to him just for a while?
He wasn't like this when our eldest son was a baby.
Babies usually cry at night because of growing pains.
My husband got angry and threw a tantrum.
He also yelled at him.
But he massages our second son's legs even at late night.
- Gosh. Why did he change so much? - Why did he suddenly change?
Whenever our second child says he craves snacks,
whether it rains or snows, he goes to the supermarket...
- to buy snacks for him. - Really?
- That's too much. - That's too harsh.
He's too harsh.
(That's exactly why I'm frustrated.)
Even when we eat together...
- Meal times are important. - It's the most important time...
- for a family. - My husband...
yells at our eldest son because he didn't finish his food.
Since my husband forces him to eat food like that,
he gets indigestion or vomits.
That happens when you eat when you're stressed out.
When our son threw up,
instead of washing his face, my husband...
What did he say?
(What did...)
(the dad say?)
- He asked why he threw up. - "Why did you throw up?"
He yelled at our son, "Why did you throw up?"
How could he have known why?
It's not like it was intentional.
That's why your eyes are tearing up. You must've been disappointed.
- Ji An is still a little child. - It must break her heart...
(Cheer up.)
- When our eldest son... - You should stay calm.
You have to say everything in front of your husband.
When he was nibbling at the food, my husband said,
- "He ruins my appetite." - My goodness.
(He ruins my appetite.)
(Is he really his dad?)
(Shocked)
- That's too much. - Honestly,
he has done a lot of wrong things. It's true.
But sometimes we can understand their viewpoint after they explain.
However, I don't think there's anything he can say...
- that will help us understand him. - Of course.
- It makes no sense. - It's a little child,
- his own son. - Ji An is his own son.
Some parents get so excited when their child takes a bite.
- "Oh, my baby. Good boy." - Exactly.
- "He ate kimchi." - They get so excited.
"My baby just ate kimchi." It makes them so happy.
(What's wrong with this dad?)
- Have you talked to your husband? - What else?
(Have you told him not to favor only one son?)
- I've talked to him. - Did you discuss seriously?
Even when our second son is at fault, my husband...
blames our eldest son.
What? Can you give an example?
Our second son falls while playing with a ball from time to time.
- That happens. - Then my husband throws a fit.
- Why? He just tripped, right? - Why?
He just tripped,
but my husband believed that our eldest son did something.
How does your eldest son react?
He seems downcast because he didn't do anything.
That's not fair.
- Exactly. - He must've been so upset.
If his brother spills a drink on the floor,
even though he didn't do it,
he gets terrified. And he's so young.
He's young,
but he's already traumatized.
It's because he always gets scolded when things go wrong.
- That's his defense mechanism. - Right.
(It breaks my heart.)
Let's hurriedly meet her husband. Hello.
(Everyone has been waiting to see him.)
(Who is the man who only loves his second son?)
- Hello. - Hello.
Nobody is clapping for him.
- Hello. - Hello.
(The clapping sound is very faint.)
You don't have to clap your hands if you don't want to.
Let us introduce her husband.
(He's embarrassed.)
Do you understand why your wife is here...
telling us about her worry?
I didn't think it was a worry.
I doubted it was going to be chosen.
Do you admit that you favor your second child?
Yes.
What kind of a parent would admit that...
he only favors one child over the other?
We cannot understand it.
My first child just does everything I don't like.
He never listens to me.
He keeps disappointing me.
How did he disappoint you?
He's just nine years old.
- How did he disappoint you? - I had higher hopes for him.
But my second son always entertains me and acts cute.
I got completely enchanted by that.
And after we got pregnant with our second child,
I succeeded to quit smoking.
- Because he's so cute? - Yes.
Did your attempt fail when you got pregnant with the first child?
- He didn't even try it. - I failed.
You didn't even try it, did you?
- So... - I tried and failed.
You say your first child does things you don't like.
- What specifically does he do? - Your eldest son.
Because I run a hair salon,
I hate him spilling things, making a mess,
and causing trouble.
- That's why... - Doesn't your second child do that?
He's still a baby.
- What is that? - He's still too young.
Is a nine-year-old an adult?
He's only nine years old.
He's neither 29 nor 19.
If you do this, we can't continue to talk.
Don't intimidate him too much.
(He's daunted.)
The two of them went on a date only once.
- Ever since he was born, - In nine years?
he only took him out once.
When I tell him to take our first child out,
he says he's too lazy to take him places.
(He refuses to take his first child out.)
Does he actually use those words?
He uses them when he talks to me.
(How can he be so cruel?)
How do you feel when you walk alongside your first child?
I don't have much feelings.
What if you walk with your second child?
Does your heart pound?
I just love it.
- He's very strange. - He's strange.
She brought us photos to prove that he favors his second child.
Please show us.
- He's adorable. - He's adorable.
That's how a father normally is.
When he takes a photo with his second child, he's happy.
The child looks happy too.
Did he even bother taking photos with his first child?
(They look very awkward.)
He looks just like his father.
Their first son is really handsome.
He looks just like his dad.
In that photo with his first child, doesn't he look like an uncle?
- He looks like an uncle. - He does.
I am relieved though.
I thought there was a secret they couldn't tell us about.
- Right. - I thought...
- You all had that suspicion, right? - I thought perhaps...
it's like what happens in morning soap operas.
Me too.
(He has too much love for his second child...)
(and too much hatred for his first child.)
(It will evoke frustration and anger.)
(A new soap opera will premiere on September 10.)
(A new morning soap opera, Biased Love)
Your first child looks just like you.
And yet you told him his face makes you lose your appetite.
Is this true? Did you really do that?
You seem to be unusually upset.
I can't believe he said his son makes him lose his appetite.
(How can you lose your appetite?)
- How can someone... - You never lose your appetite.
Never. That never happens.
He's too distracted when he eats.
- That's what a child does. - He doesn't concentrate.
He always eats slowly.
We always wait more than 15 minutes for him.
- He's a child. - Why can't he understand that?
I've been patient.
- How so? - With your first child?
His bad eating habits...
persisted for such a long time. that it ended up...
- He's just a child. - making me lose my appetite.
He never concentrates on his meal.
- What are you talking about? - That's why...
Don't you think your second child can become like that too?
When he turns nine?
- He eats fast. - Does he eat fast?
- He eats fast. - Your second child does?
Why did he have to eat fast?
So do you like him because he eats fast?
Then will I be the most loved?
- How does it work? - Then...
- Let me ask you this. - Why does he do that?
- You're the 1st. I am the 2nd. - Since you were little...
Are you jealous of your first son...
because your relationship with your wife was...
really good before he was born?
(Is he jealous of his firstborn?)
(Did his son get in the way of their happy marriage?)
Yes. That's right.
I was a little jealous.
When we had our first child,
all her attention went to the baby.
I felt sad about it.
- But it wasn't his fault. - Right.
But I think...
one of the parents has to play the villain.
- To... - Why do you think so?
To discipline the child well.
(What?)
(He tilts his head.)
I think it's too harsh for the child.
What's the reason you became so generous to the second child?
There must be a reason.
He was born...
with only one kidney.
- Your second child. - Yes.
That's why I couldn't stop caring about him more.
That's understandable.
- You'd care more about him. - That's why...
- But the first child was sicker. - He was sick more often.
He got sick very frequently.
Whenever he got sick at night,
I told my husband that we should take him to a hospital.
But he told me to give him medicine and wait until the next day.
(He didn't care about his sick child.)
I didn't have a driver's license at the time.
So I carried him to the hospital.
(I am sorry about that time.)
- Does your second child act cute? - He's very cute.
He looks pretty like a girl.
He sings songs like "Unconditionally"...
and "Love Scenario".
Does your first child not act cute at all?
He tries to act cute to his dad.
- He tries. - Yes.
He goes to his dad and massages his shoulders.
- That's cute. - And his arms and legs.
- My goodness. - And he gets praised...
- whenever he eats well. - He wants his dad's love.
So he eats hurriedly.
"I finished first. Don't you love me?"
- He wants to be loved. - What does your husband say?
Then he says, "Yes, you are a good boy."
He says it half-heartedly. "Yes, you are good."
That's all he says.
Did you know he was trying hard?
These days, kids are so manipulative.
- He's doing it only to fool me. - He said his son is manipulative.
(He's doing it only out of need.)
He does it when he wants to buy something.
Only when he needs something from me.
(That's what he does.)
- He simply wants to be loved. - He wants your love.
That's very innocent.
And you think he's being manipulative?
Yes, that's what I think.
Oh, my gosh.
What do you think about that?
I think...
our second child is more manipulative.
You are bad too.
- What is this? - What is this?
(The family separates.)
The second child steps on and hits his brother.
He presses down on him from the top.
Your second child does that?
Even when his brother didn't hit him...
- They do that. - Does he lie?
He says he hit him.
- You made them that way. - That's right.
Our oldest son is really kind...
because he doesn't tell his dad about it.
He's afraid he might be scolded.
One time,
he was crying alone lying down.
(The first son was quietly crying.)
Was he crying when his brother was hitting him?
(It makes me so sad.)
Did you know that your 2nd child was bullying your 1st child?
Yes, I knew.
You should've just said that you didn't know.
- One time, the second child... - Is this a drama?
One time the second child was telling on his brother to me.
He said he bullied him and took things from him.
He said he hit him and asked me to scold him.
But I said, "No. He is also my precious son."
I was half joking half serious.
Why would you say you were half joking?
Is that something to joke about?
I looked at my first son's face after I said that,
and he was so happy.
(He smiled brightly when he heard it.)
For the first time, I felt so sorry to him.
Then you should've changed.
But it's not easy to change.
(Did you even try to change?)
Until when will your first child...
have to put up with your favoritism?
When the second son becomes clever enough and older,
I will be strict with both of them.
I think your second son is already very clever.
- Doesn't he already seem clever? - He is manipulating you.
He is very clever.
You are waiting for that time,
but your first son is nine.
- Do you think he will wait for you? - Right. He won't wait.
You will treat them equally when time comes?
How frustrated would he be?
By then, he'll be going through puberty.
Even if you suddenly treat him well,
- he will never forget about it. - Right.
The most important thing is...
to hear from the children themselves.
- The children came with them. - My goodness.
Ji An. Seo An.
(The 1st son is deprived of love, and the 2nd son is cute.)
(They are here.)
They are adorable.
- They don't know where to go. - Go to your daddy.
He's cute.
Go sit with your dad.
- He's cute. - Go sit with your dad.
He's handsome.
- The first son is so handsome. - Welcome.
Sit next to your dad.
(He takes care of his little brother.)
- He's a good brother. - He takes care of his brother.
(But he only takes care of his second child.)
(Please care about me too, Dad.)
- You are so handsome. - You are very handsome.
You look so cool.
You are better than your dad.
Please introduce yourself.
I am Park Ji An from Grade 2 Class 6...
of Daejeon Dunwon Elementary School.
He's cute.
He's so adorable.
Who do you think your dad likes more,
you or your brother?
My brother.
Do you think your dad doesn't like you?
Yes.
What makes you think so?
He told us not to use his phone.
I didn't,
but Seo An kept using it.
And your dad didn't scold him?
- No. - What about you?
I got scolded.
Has there been a moment when you felt it was unfair?
We were playing with a ball, and my brother fell.
My dad scolded me, saying it was my fault.
Did you try to tell your dad that...
- you didn't push your brother? - No.
- Why not? - Why not?
You didn't do it.
I was scared.
- He's your dad. - Why?
My brother fell.
- He knew he'd be scolded. - Because his brother fell,
he knew he'd be scolded anyway.
(He was scared his dad would scold him.)
Do you want your brother to be scolded as well?
- No. - You don't that?
- No. - You're so nice.
How can he be so nice? Is he an angel?
Do you think your brother is cute?
Yes.
Does he sometimes annoy you?
(What are you doing?)
- Yes. - Does he sometimes annoy you?
(He's being cute.)
- Look how he's trying to look cute. - Oh, my.
He's trying to win our hearts.
We were having a serious conversation with his big brother.
He must have sensed that things weren't going well for him.
(Is he trying to reverse the situation?)
(How did you know?)
- Seo An. - Yes?
Who do you think your dad likes more,
you or your big brother?
Me.
You?
He knows it.
- Let's say you two had a fight. - Okay.
He must think we're friends.
If you talk in a friendly way, he copies you.
- Yes. - Okay.
If you and your big brother had a fight,
whose side would your dad take?
I...
- I'm a baby shark. - A baby shark?
Suddenly?
- Are you a baby shark? - Yes.
(Baby shark)
(Good)
Do you think you're cute?
Yes!
Can you try to look cute?
(Cute)
One more. Go.
- You keep doing the same thing. - Yes.
(You did a good job.)
(Stop smiling, honey.)
Let's see what Ji An can do.
- Let's do that. - Please try to look cute.
Let's see what Ji An can do. It's okay. Try it.
- Like this. - Start.
- Try to look cute. - 1, 2, 3.
(Cute)
1, 2, 3.
Everyone loves it.
Stop it.
Your big brother can do two things.
Seo An is doing something else.
- What do you want to sing? - "Unconditional".
- What? - "Unconditional".
- "Unconditional"? - Start.
(My love for you is)
(Unconditional)
- He's so cute. - My love for you is
(A special love)
- Good job. - If you call me
(The baby sings a manly man's song.)
I'll run for you no matter what
(He knows how to finish up.)
- Ji An. - Ji An, get ready.
Ji An.
(We were in love, we met)
(The elementary school student calmly sings the breakup song.)
(He does his best.)
A pretty good ending
(You're doing great, Ji An.)
(I loved you)
(Great job)
He did a great job.
(You sing pretty well.)
- Both Ji An and Seo An... - He's so cute.
- have their own charms. - He's handsome.
Sun Mi, what do you think?
- I want to raise him. - Who wins?
- You want to raise him? - You suddenly want to raise him?
He sang so cutely, right?
We all adore him.
- His dad... - But his dad...
treats him unfairly. We don't understand.
- His sons are so cute. - Why...
I come from Gyeongsang Province. I'm a bit cold and reserved.
- I hate it when people say that. - So do I.
What does where you come from have to do with it?
- Won Hyo is very sweet. - Also...
I believe, when it comes to sons,
you should be strict.
I admit that I've been pretty strict with my son.
He's too extreme.
He's extreme?
We were preparing for my father-in-law's memorial service,
and my husband's aunt was peeling some fruits.
But kids don't understand what's going on.
- So my son approached her. - Of course.
There were other grown-ups around,
but my husband started yelling at Ji An.
- Even though there were others? - Yes.
Knives are dangerous. He could have hurt himself.
Any parent would have done the same...
because it's dangerous.
There's nothing wrong with being strict.
It's a parent's job to discipline his or her children.
I agree with you on that.
But you should still express your love to him.
(Express your love to your son.)
What I'm worried about is,
as our son gets older,
- he might stop talking to his son. - Yes.
For sons, having a good relationship with their dads is important.
That's right. I once got a call from Ji An's teacher.
Apparently, he hit his classmate.
The kid's dad wanted the teacher...
to warn us.
He is not loved enough at home. He's nervous all the time.
That's his way of relieving his stress.
I'm worried his violent behaviors will continue.
Does your son scold Ji An a lot...
even in front of you?
When Ji An watches TV around mealtime,
my son yells at him.
I also heard him yell at his son a few times...
telling him not to eat if he doesn't want to.
- Even in front of you? - Yes.
As Ji An's grandma, I feel upset.
- Of course. - I feel sad.
Ji An is his son too. I feel sorry for him.
(Ji An starts to cry.)
Ji An has been crying the whole time.
- It's so sad. - It's sad.
- Ji An. - He's crying.
Why are you crying?
I'm sad.
Why are you sad?
Do you think your dad doesn't love you?
Yes.
Do you think your dad doesn't love you?
(I don't think my dad loves me.)
(Sad)
I'm sorry to say this, but we can see both your sons from here,
and they look so different.
(Sad, happy)
(It doesn't look like they're family.)
Seeing your children...
get along well and take care of each other...
- is the best thing in the world. - That's right.
But everything you're doing right now...
is setting your sons against each other.
You're not just ruining the relationship between your sons.
As Ji An grows up, he'll resent you more and more.
You're making a mess.
(Upset)
When your sons grow up,
they might come back on this show.
My brother and I had stopped talking for 15 years before this show.
Min Sang and his brother hadn't talked to each other...
in 15 years.
(Treat them equally so that they don't end up hating each other.)
We have some expert advice here. Please listen carefully.
Excessive discipline...
harms the child's self-esteem...
and prevents the child from forming healthy relationship with friends.
After disciplining your child, it is very important...
to express your love to the child to make the child feel safe.
Even my mom, who lived in the countryside,
would give me a sweet potato after scolding me.
That made me feel...
- "It's not that I hate you." - "What I did might be wrong,"
"but my mom still loves me."
How do you want your husband to change?
I want him to give our first son at least half as much love...
as he gives to our second son.
Do you think you can do that?
(What will her husband answer?)
(Please)
I'll try to communicate with Ji An...
as much as possible.
What exactly could you do?
I'll express my love to him more. I'll hug him more often.
Ji An is crying.
- He's been crying the whole time. - He must have missed...
his dad's love so much and felt so lonely.
- It's been nine years. - He's a kid,
but he's been hurt.
Say something to Ji An.
Express the love you haven't been able to.
Look at your dad. Don't be afraid.
Look at your dad.
I'm so proud of you.
You know how I feel, right?
(He has never heard it before.)
Dad, I'll...
be a better son.
- My goodness. - Tell him you love him.
- He must feel everything. - I love you.
- There are pent-up emotions. - He feels everything.
- He's so handsome. - Look at them hug.
(Treat your first son better from now on.)
Let's start with Min Sang.
We took a time machine. We came back to the past.
You can get things right now.
When your sons grow up, they become better than any friend.
I hope Ji An will become a son like that.
Even if it's only for an hour a week, you should make sure...
to spend time alone with Ji An.
I think you should look at things from his perspective.
I hope he will equally love his two sons.
If you think this is a worry...
for Ji An and his mom,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
"Biased Love". Please reveal the result.
(The result)
3.
A lot of people voted.
153.
(She got 153 votes.)
"Please Stop It".
Hello. I am a 23-year-old college student from Seoul.
Whenever I see one person, I get really emotional.
That person is my 81-year-old...
grandmother.
"Grandma, it's 2am. Why aren't you home yet?"
"I collected some waste papers,"
"and now I'm sorting them out. Go to bed first."
- My goodness. - My grandmother...
pulls a handcart and goes around town...
collecting waste paper all day and night.
The problem is that she works just as hard...
even when it's hot or cold.
"My head hurts. I have a throbbing headache,"
"and I am dizzy."
"I can't see well."
She collapsed from a cold,
and she fell down and collapsed.
I had to call an ambulance so many times.
She even had a surgery on her back recently.
But she wears waist support and holds a cane on one hand.
Then she pulls a small handcart with the other hand.
"Grandma, why are you working so hard?"
"You will get into a big trouble if you keep doing this."
"It's fine."
"Don't worry about me."
I am so worried because of my grandmother.
Please help me so that my grandmother will...
live the rest of her life in comfort.
(She asked us to stop her grandmother from working.)
In your life, have you ever felt...
that your parents or your grandparents...
were too burdened with life?
When I was in 6th grade...
(You were very young.)
My parents already looked smaller than me.
(He was unintentionally mature.)
- Right. - Yes.
I wondered, "Was my mom always that small?"
(Is she identifying herself with him?)
My dad looked small too.
I was too big. The problem is that I am too big.
You were a bad son to them.
My goodness.
JR and Ren, you are still young.
So have you not felt that yet? Or have you?
I've felt it once.
My parents both work.
So my grandparents...
raised me.
So when I was little,
I was happy living with my grandparents.
That's what I thought at the time.
But as I got older, I gradually came to understand it.
I understood why I was living with my grandparents.
- Right. - Right.
Let's meet and talk to her.
Please come on out.
JR, Ren, go help her out.
(Who is worried about her grandmother collecting waste paper?)
(She receives a special welcome.)
Hello. I am Kim Ji Hyun from Nowon-gu.
(She's nervous.)
(Hello.)
She doesn't do it only a few times...
a week as a part-time job.
Does she really collect waste paper every day?
Yes. She does it every day without any rest.
She pulls handcart and collects waste paper.
It's not like she's been doing it for only a few years.
She's been doing it for 17 years.
(She's been doing it for 17 years.)
(It's worse than what we imagined.)
When she goes out,
she sometimes stays out as late as 2 to 3am.
- That's too much. - And...
when she's really late, she stays up all night.
(She works all night at the age of 81.)
She stays up all night collecting waste paper?
(That's intense.)
Is there a reason why she's working so hard?
The biggest reason must be...
responsibility.
- Responsibility. - Yes.
What responsibility?
My brother and I live with her.
When I was five, our parents split up.
We didn't have anywhere to go, so she raised us.
- You and your brother. - Yes.
She wanted us to finish all the education,
from elementary school to college.
And all the burden was hers alone.
My grandfather lived with us too,
- but he was blind. - Was he?
So my grandmother had to take all the responsibilities.
My goodness. She's amazing.
It must've been really tough for her to handle it alone.
It must've been tough for her to make a living alone.
I couldn't learn everything I wanted.
But my brother and I studied within the means...
provided by our grandmother.
And she guided us to the right path.
My goodness.
- How is your family situation now? - Right now...
I was in college until recently,
but I got a job.
- I got a job at a hospital. - At a hospital.
So our situation is not bad enough for her to go out and work.
With the money I make,
we can make a living without a problem.
We also get some financial support from the government,
so that's sufficient enough.
But she insists on working.
She wants to give you more.
That's heartbreaking.
In my case,
my dad was ill for a very long time.
But whenever he got out of the hospital,
he wouldn't stop working.
- Right. - He farmed...
- and kept himself busy. - He had to do something.
- That way he wouldn't get sick. - He said...
that was the proof that he was still alive.
So perhaps...
she might want to do it.
- She might like doing it. - Yes.
She's not in good health.
She's in bad shape in fact.
She got a surgery on her back.
And she's also suffering from rheumatism.
- Rheumatism? - Yes.
It makes her finger joints...
- stiff. - That really hurts.
When she comes home,
her fingers are all torn.
(She becomes emotional.)
- My goodness. - She must feel so bad about it.
Just thinking about it makes her tear up.
(Her rough hands reflect the hardships she has been through.)
She would trip in the street and get bruised.
In the middle of winter, she would stay outside for 5 to 6 hours.
When she does that, she suffers from high fevers and colds.
She got rushed to the hospital many times.
(She had to call ambulance many times.)
If she's that unwell, and if you're that worried,
shouldn't you try to talk to her strongly?
I fought with her.
And I tried running away from home.
(It was her last resort.)
You said you'd leave home if she continues to do it.
Yes. I said I wouldn't see her.
For how many days were you away?
Did you come back home right away?
- A month? - A month.
You left home for a month?
- Where... - How was she when you got back?
When I came back, she was thinner.
Did that not change her?
She's very stubborn.
She doesn't care even if I leave home.
She just goes out and works.
(I am so frustrated.)
We wonder why her grandmother...
keeps working even if she's not in good health.
Let's ask her.
Hello, ma'am.
Hello.
- She's adorable. - I wish you all happiness.
We wish you happiness too.
(She's adorable.)
Ma'am, because of this show,
you couldn't work, could you?
- Are you okay with that? - I worked yesterday.
- Yesterday. - Yesterday.
Did you get today's work done yesterday?
Until what time did you work?
These days, I am not well.
I sometimes only gather 3kg. I can't make a lot of money.
I get paid 3 cents for 1kg.
You get paid 3 cents for 1kg. You collected 3kg,
- so you earned 9 cents. - Yes.
But they add a cent there and give me 10 cents.
- You earned 10 cents yesterday? - Yes.
- Because you can't work today? - I can't do more than that.
I can't carry more than that.
My back hurts too much.
I wear a waist support.
Why would you do that to earn 10 cents?
- That's not it. - She gives you money.
If I lose my area,
I won't be able to get it back.
That job enabled me to raise my grandchildren.
But your granddaughter is making money now.
Let's give her a round of applause as a token of appreciation.
She raised her grandchildren well.
(Well done, ma'am.)
Ma'am.
When you were in good health, up to how many kilograms...
did you collect in a day?
200 to 300kg.
(No way.)
How much is that in cash?
They paid us 15 cents per kilogram at the time.
So you earned 30 dollars a day.
You raised the children with that money then.
Yes.
(He's shocked.)
(She must've wandered around so much for 17 years.)
You used to do that in the past.
But you are very unwell now.
Your granddaughter says...
what she earns is enough to support the family.
(No.)
If I keep spending her money,
what will she do? She's only 23 right now.
She knows everything costs money.
- to spend her money on herself. - If I have money to give her,
I would accept money from her.
But I don't have any money saved up for her.
For example, if she were to get married in the next two years,
I don't even have money to buy her bedding.
My family is the recipient of basic livelihood grants.
When I was in school, I got financial support.
So we already went through most of the tough times.
For the rest of the semesters...
My brother and I saved up money...
from working part-time jobs.
We can use that money.
You can use that money for your college tuition.
She can live with social welfare...
and allowance from me.
However, she refuses it.
- Does she refuse the allowance? - Yes.
When I give her an allowance, she doesn't use it on herself.
She saves the money...
so that she can give it to me and my brother...
in the future.
(You don't need to do that, Grandma.)
She is incredible.
Your granddaughter is worried.
She wants you to be comfortable,
but you keep going out to make money.
That leads to my next question.
Is there a different reason why you go out?
- Do you get sick... - Yes.
- if you stay at home? - I have depression.
- Excuse me? - I have depression.
(They didn't expect her confession.)
I suffered from depression for five years.
In those five years, I have tried to kill myself.
(Grandma.)
(When she wants to give up, her grandchildren kept her going.)
(Despite her sickness, she was her grandchildren's hope.)
(Grandma, I will protect you now.)
Is that one of the reasons...
why you go out to work?
When I go out, I meet kind people...
who give me a cup of water.
"Grandma, please have some candies."
Then they leave.
We understand where you are coming from.
Did you know about this?
I knew that she was suffering from depression.
However, I don't think...
it's necessary to overcome depression...
by going out...
to collect waste paper in a handcart.
When she has money,
she buys good clothes for me and brother...
and cheap clothes that cost 10 to 20 dollars for herself.
Since she spends half the day collecting waste paper,
she eats a meal or two outside.
She brings rice and side dishes from home...
- and eats on the street. - She brings food with her.
- During the winter too? - Yes.
She crouches down on the street...
and eats food...
She keeps watch in case someone steals her handcart...
or the waste paper that she has collected.
My goodness.
She wants to save money,
but it breaks your heart to see her like that.
Why do you eat your meals on the street?
If I spend 10 dollars on a meal,
I won't be able to save money.
When it's cold, you should eat cup noodles...
at a convenience store.
I have never bought cup noodles at a convenience store.
- Are they too expensive? - They are too expensive.
Had I not led a frugal lifestyle,
I wouldn't have been able to raise them.
It's a cruel world.
I bought my grandchildren a laptop that costs 1,300 dollars,
but someone stole it.
- My goodness. - So...
I bought them another laptop.
(She bought them another laptop.)
- If I don't do that... - You don't spend 50 cents...
on cup noodles for yourself, but you bought them another laptop?
If I don't do that, how will they study?
- Who stole the laptop? - How careless of you!
No! She wasn't careless.
She put it in her locker.
Yeong Ja wasn't criticizing your granddaughter.
I know, I know.
(Yeong Ja got scolded.)
Grandma bought me that laptop...
when I entered the university.
(The laptop was a gift.)
I am in tears.
There are lockers in each department.
I put it in my locker,
but it was located in the security camera blind spot.
I don't even know who took it.
JR, even if it means a drop in your popularity,
you should say something to the thief.
(That came out of nowhere.)
(That little...)
I don't know how you are living right now,
but you will get what you deserve.
- Watch your back. - A revenge.
Sun Mi said, "That little..."
Sun Mi.
(That's refreshing.)
A man Ji Hyun depends on a lot,
her boyfriend, is here.
Hello, Ji Hyun's boyfriend.
Hello.
He is handsome.
- He looks like a nice man. - How nice!
Does your girlfriend depend on you?
Since her brother is in the army,
she has no one to lean on.
- I see. - She leans on me a lot.
When her grandma goes out to collect waste paper,
people look down on her and mistreat her.
She becomes worried that something bad will happen.
(Nodding)
Do people look down on her for collecting waste paper?
She collects and organizes soft drink cans as well.
There was a person who threw a can at her.
My goodness.
He said, "You need this, right?"
- My goodness. - What is wrong with him?
Someone called her dirty and told her to hurry up and leave.
There are people who point fingers at her.
Whenever I witness that,
I ask her why she continues working despite being treated poorly,
when it's not worth it at all.
Then she tells me, "This isn't theft."
"I simply organize what the others throw away..."
"and sell it."
"Don't think that this work is embarrassing."
I understand her, but it still breaks my heart.
To me, grandma is someone great who deserves respect.
- It breaks my heart. - You are right.
She's really amazing, and she truly deserves...
- great respect. - Of course.
Do you also think...
there are a lot of people...
who mistreat her?
Among people with handcarts, there is a middle-aged man.
He was having an argument with Ji Hyun's grandma...
- when he... - Did he shove her?
He shoved her.
She got bruises.
She couldn't work for days because of her aching body.
That happened once.
He is close to tears.
Ji Hyun's boyfriend is great.
- He is close to tears. - There is a song that goes...
(I even loved your suffering)
Ji Hyun's boyfriend is cool.
In which neighborhood can you meet a man like him?
Give me the neighborhood.
We just know where good restaurants are at.
We don't know where good men are at.
That's right. We need to be informed.
- Give me the neighborhood. - Gangdong-gu.
- Gangdong-gu? - Gangdong-gu.
Aren't there many good restaurants in Gangdong-gu?
Good restaurants come to my mind.
(Every conversation ends with good restaurants.)
There was a time you got a bigger scare.
On many occasions, she almost got into an accident.
- She has to be on the road often. - That's right.
That's right. She was at a long crosswalk at night.
- I often saw them at the crosswalk. - She was crossing it...
when the light changed to red.
Sometimes, cars barely miss her handcart.
- Sometimes, they honk at her. - It's dangerous.
I once saw a middle-aged man...
call her a crazy old lady.
"Didn't you see the light?"
One time, a drunk driver hit...
her handcart.
Had she been pulling it, she would have gotten hurt.
It could have been disastrous.
These things happened many times.
What is the hardest thing about collecting waste paper...
you haven't told us about?
People's contempt.
- People's contempt. - Yes.
- People's contempt. - People's contempt.
When I leave my handcart unattended for a short while,
some people take it and leave it somewhere far.
Why?
They do it to prevent my work.
There are mean people like that.
- They are mean for no reason. - I know what they're doing,
but I don't bother fighting with them.
Your granddaughter can't stand...
to see your heart ache...
- due to people's contempt. - That's right.
If she quits collecting waste paper, what do you want her to do?
Grandma loves to sing.
- Really? - She sings along to the radio.
She always loves to play janggu.
She has always wanted to learn Korean.
- Korean. - She can write her name,
but she hasn't learned Korean. She wants to do that.
- She can learn it. - That's right.
Two years ago, my grandma and I went...
on a trip to Chuncheon for the first time.
- To Chuncheon? - Good job.
I had to convince her...
to stop working for a few days and come with me.
We rode rail bikes.
She was happy, right?
My grandma thanked me for the good memories.
- How pretty! - She is wearing a lipstick.
- She is wearing makeup. - Rail bike.
Raincoats.
She has a sheet mask on her face.
- It's nice. - It makes me feel good.
Ma'am, what did you enjoy the most about the trip?
My granddaughter made rice and stew in the morning and went,
"Grandma, wake up and have some breakfast."
(I am proud of her.)
It must have been memorable.
I was so thankful.
We rode vehicles that look like trains.
- Rail bikes. - She sang for me.
It was fun.
Your granddaughter said that...
you love to sing...
and play janggu.
Why don't you go to a community center...
and learn janggu further?
I will do that if I have the time.
That's right.
We prepared a janggu.
- My goodness. - Please give us a performance.
(That's incredible.)
- I will sing as well. - Okay. She will sing as well.
My goodness.
("Namhansanseong")
[VIU Ver] E380 Hello Counselor "Taking Care of One Another" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
(Grandma, let's go.)
(She plays with the rhythm.)
Doesn't she seem like a human cultural asset?
(I go up Namhansanseong)
(And look out to Leehwa Gate)
That's good.
(She shows off her singing skills.)
She is good.
(Even a singer is surprised.)
That's good.
(The sound is as deep as the years she has lived.)
(Make some noise.)
She is good.
She is cool.
(Satisfied)
She has a good sense of rhythm.
- I know. - Seriously.
- She is really good. - She is the best.
You're very talented.
How did it feel to play janggu after a long while?
- How did it feel? - I play it at home sometimes.
- I use a plastic bowl. - You don't have janggu.
No, I don't. When I hit it, it's fun.
- I hit it gently. - She is cool.
Since she uses a plastic bowl instead of janggu,
we will give her that janggu as a present.
(Do anything you want to do.)
It's a present.
(You can play janggu from now on.)
You can play janggu now. What else do you want to do?
There isn't much.
Ji Hyun majors in hotel management.
- That's her major. - Yes.
However, she works at a hospital.
- She needs to make money. - Yes.
Ma'am, please listen to me.
I worked in Seoul to pay for my tuition.
Even though it took time,
I worked hard...
and achieved my dream.
The process was precious.
I hope you wouldn't try to do everything for her.
- Ma'am. - Yes?
She have done enough.
- That's right. - You can stop now.
Is there anything you would like to say to your grandma?
If it weren't for you,
I don't know what would've happened to me and my brother.
(Her sincerity reaches everyone's heart.)
Thanks to you,
my brother and I walked the straight and narrow path...
and grew up well.
Please stop collecting waste paper.
Let's go on trips together,
wear matching T-shirts,
and take a walk.
I hope you would spend the rest of your life...
doing what you want.
Ma'am, please promise her.
- Let's do that. - "Don't cry."
"I will play janggu at home and learn Korean..."
- "as you want." - That's right.
- That's right. - She is crying.
"I will stop collecting waste paper."
- I will take a break. - Hurry up and tell her.
(Okay, I will take a break.)
She will take a break. She said she will take a break.
She will take a break.
I will take a break if that's what you want.
(Grandma, please keep your promise.)
Why don't you learn Korean...
from your granddaughter 30 minutes a day?
Wouldn't it be nice?
(Thinking about it makes her happy.)
It would be nice, right?
Her boyfriend could come, too.
That would be nicer.
Please keep your promise.
I was thinking about taking a break...
after you graduate.
She has it figured out. You should take a break.
Just think that she graduated.
Take her microphone.
- Take her microphone. - Take it away.
Min Sang.
Upon hearing the story,
I decided that this is a worry.
I don't think Ji Hyun's grandma will take a break.
Ji Hyun should convince her repeatedly.
It's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
I think it's a worry as well.
I realized that my struggles are nothing...
compared to those of her.
She made me want to work harder.
Thank you, and I love you.
(I feel the same.)
If you think it's a worry, press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
Let's see how many votes the worry received.
Show us the result.
The last digit.
Out of 200, how many votes did it get?
(How many votes did it get?)
- 166 votes. - 166 votes.
(166 votes)
"Help My Daughter".
- Please play the daughter. - Okay, Mom.
You remind me of your late father.
(She is imagining a husband who never existed.)
Hello.
I am a housewife who leads a busy life.
Actually,
I had a late child in my 40s.
I have a 16-year-old daughter, 10-year-old son,
and 5-month-old son.
I became a mother of three children.
Although I dedicate all of my time to chores and childcare,
it's hard.
Still, I have a savior.
It's my daughter.
"Did you finish your homework?"
"Do you want your older sister to take a look?"
(Crying)
"Gosh, is the baby hungry?"
I am your mom.
My daughter looks after my youngest son...
and helps with the household chores.
However, a problem arose a week ago.
"My daughter, would you help me?"
"No."
(That's so sudden.)
"You think this isn't hard on me because I keep smiling."
"I am exhausted."
She is exhausted.
"I want to die."
My goodness.
(My goodness.)
I was shocked by my daughter's unexpected reaction.
Then this happened the next day.
"I will look after the baby. Tell me if you are exhausted."
"It's okay, Mom. I will look after him well."
She smiled and said that everything is well.
However, I am really anxious.
I want to know what my daughter really thinks.
Please help me.
(I want to know what my daughter really thinks.)
Sun Mi, what did you think?
- It breaks your heart, right? - You know,
I can sympathize.
- Really? - Yes.
- Why? - When I was little,
my dad was sick.
I was the head of the household.
- I see. - I have two brothers.
I looked after my dad and traveled back and forth...
to train in Seoul.
I also looked after my brothers since they were students.
Do you get upset from time to time?
When you have time to think,
reality hits you.
- It happens when you think hard. - How old were you?
I was 16 years old.
- The daughter is at that age. - I was...
15 or 16 years old.
You will be able to connect with her.
Let's welcome the mother to the stage.
Please come on in.
(Who is worried about her secretive daughter?)
- JR. - Help her.
(Lee Hyun Ah)
(Welcome.)
Your daughter has been helping...
ever since your youngest child was born.
Yes. The baby cries a lot...
- without his mother. - Of course he does.
Because of that, I can't do any chores.
When my oldest daughter comes back from school,
I give her the baby...
and do the household chores.
What does your husband do?
He goes to work early in the morning...
and comes home late at night.
That's why I depend on my daughter a lot.
Do you simply depend on her...
or ask her to help you?
I asked her to help me a lot.
Since there are chores to be done,
I often go, "Please watch the baby for a second."
A second often turns into 30 minutes or an hour.
I am sure those with children know this.
Childcare is...
- really hard. - It's the hardest.
If you have to choose between farming and babysitting...
Farming is exhausting.
Despite that, many would choose farming over babysitting.
Is your daughter come to suffer ever since the baby was born...
five months ago?
Is she suffering...
because she took care of her other brother as well?
Because my husband got into a tight spot,
I had to work when my second child was four years old.
Since then, my oldest daughter took...
her four-year-old brother to a hospital by bus...
when he was sick.
- This has gone on for a while. - Yes.
She has helped out for many years.
I don't know who the mother is.
People say that she is the little mother.
- She is 16 years old. - People say that.
(Hold on.)
Did the relationship between you and your husband suddenly improve?
I have to ask,
did you discuss with your daughter...
about having the third child?
- What? - We were taken...
- Wouldn't it be strange? - We were taken...
- by surprise. - This is really sudden...
for the daughter.
She cried a lot.
Why?
Was she happy?
She hated it.
She knew the baby would be...
- her burden. - Yes.
(I am sorry it happened so suddenly.)
Did your daughter really say she wanted to die?
I don't need to tell her to do something.
She picks up laundry by herself.
When I'm about to vacuum, she says, "Mom, I'll do it."
- She vacuums instead. - She's kind.
Yes. She's always smiling.
I've never thought it was too much for her.
But then suddenly,
she said it's too much for her. She's going to die.
She said she wants to jump off.
(They're shocked by such words.)
Her school did a test on her,
and it said she has a depression.
I asked her,
"If you felt like that you should've said something, why didn't you?"
She answered, "I know you're busy and struggling too."
- She's kind. - "If I tell you,"
"what can you do for me?"
"It won't solve anything."
- She's mature. - She's very mature.
That's what she said.
It's frustrating and heartbreaking.
(It's frustrating and heartbreaking as a mother.)
Let's meet her daughter and hear her story.
(Everyone's curious to meet the nice girl.)
- She's very pretty. Hello. - She's really pretty.
- Hi. - Hello.
How was it? Your mom sent your story to Hello,
and now you're here.
At first, I regretted.
I could tell that my family is careful around me.
My mom doesn't tell me to babysit my brother...
like before.
I felt sorry for her.
She thinks she made a big deal out of it.
How thoughtful.
I heard you were struggling to babysit your brother.
Is it really hard?
When I come home from academy,
it's around 8pm.
Then I start...
babysitting my brother.
By the time it's done, it's around 10pm.
My brother doesn't go to sleep right away.
He wakes up 3 or 4 times in his sleep.
I can't enjoy my sleep.
Right.
You babysit your brother.
Is everything hard? What's the hardest part?
He cries a lot when I lay him down.
On the day I sit down and get up too much,
my knees hurt when I go to sleep...
as if they're getting beat by a hammer.
That's how my mother feels. Really?
(She's having joint pains at 16.)
- Yes. - Left or right?
My left knee.
(Why didn't you tell me?)
When you sooth him,
do you have your own way of...
making him sleep?
I lay him down and sing popular songs.
Popular songs?
Popular songs instead of a lullaby?
You sing popular songs to make him go to sleep?
Let's say Min Sang is the baby.
- He's way too big. - He looks like a baby. He's cute.
(The biggest baby ever)
It won't work.
The baby's crying.
- What do you sing? - Lately,
I sing "Power Up" by Red Velvet.
That's the most recent song.
She sings recent songs.
- It's K-pop. - "Power Up"?
What kind of children's song?
"My Brother Has Curly Hair".
My brother
(My brother has curly hair)
(The correct lyrics are My brother the troublemaker, not curly hair)
He might not like it.
He might like straight hair.
Right.
You find babysitting your brother too hard,
but the next day you say it's okay.
Why do you keep changing your words?
When I get angry,
I feel relieved at the moment,
but after that, I blame myself.
And you felt sorry for your mother?
I feel sorry for my mom.
- She's nice. - I should've endured it.
Why do you think it burdens her?
Ever since she had the second child, she became weak.
She got sick often.
Now that she had one more child,
I'm afraid she got even worse.
She's generous.
Even if you want to talk about your worries,
you don't because you think...
it'd burden your mother even more?
(Does she not talk about her worries in case it burdens her mother?)
Then how do you relieve your stress if you don't tell anyone?
I just suppress it on my own.
You're not skate. You shouldn't do that.
I see that person over there...
is crying already.
She keeps crying.
Something must have happened to her.
Do all three stories make people cry in Hello now?
- No... - Has it been like this lately?
No...
I have Meniere’s disease.
What is that?
I feel dizzy,
have butterfly in my stomach and throw up.
I get a serious headache.
When I get sick, I stay in bed for 2, 3 days.
Sometimes, I go to the emergency room.
In the case of my youngest child,
he was born prematurely at 36 weeks...
- due to amniotic fluid rupture. - Goodness.
Since that's the case, my daughter...
- saw everything. - I know.
Because she saw everything,
she's worried about it.
Where did you hear about...
the depression?
My school had a peer counseling.
I checked everything as they said,
and the result said it suspects depression.
When I'm alone, I feel lonely and like I'm going to lose my mind.
Especially just before I go to sleep,
I just want to give up everything.
I often think I just want to give up.
I've been having terrible thoughts.
Lately, I've been crying myself to sleep.
I haven't had a good night's sleep for a long time.
(Worried)
You seem to be surprised to hear her story, Sun Mi.
It's not something for a 16-year-old to worry about.
She's already stressed about school,
and on top of it, there are chores.
- It must have doubled. - I know.
You should've told your mom.
"Mom. I've been weird lately."
I once said that I was having a hard time.
Then my dad said,
"You make it sound like you babysit all the time."
(Her dad said something harsh to her.)
"Stop complaining."
He should've complimented you instead.
- Her father is the problem. - That's what had happened.
(Her father is the problem.)
Have you ever exploded?
- About a week ago... - A week ago?
I had my brother in my arms.
He puked twice on me.
He puked?
I got upset at him.
"Why do you keep puking at me?"
Then my dad said, "How do you hold the baby..."
"that he pukes every time you hold him?"
It's your dad again.
Her father is the problem.
- It's upsetting. - I was very upset.
I was depressed for a while.
Then my mom told me,
"Why are you making a face..."
"and making other people feel uncomfortable?"
"Why are you acting like that?"
- Goodness. - So I talked to her...
about depression.
I believe it's time to meet her father.
(Right. Let's see his face.)
(If he were my dad...)
Run away.
- He's... - Now is your time. Run away.
Yes.
Sir.
(Where do you think you're going?)
- How old is your child? - Hello.
She's only 16.
I... I...
(Speechless)
I'll ask. If Sun Mi reveals herself, she'll lose fans.
Is what your daughter said true?
- Yes, it is. - Do you remember it?
Her brother is the youngest of three, right?
I said, "Your brother must hate you."
"That's why he pukes every time you hold him."
I was just joking though.
- Right. You were joking. - It was only a joke.
It's only a joke,
- if your daughter laughs too. - She should laugh.
That's what a joke is.
Did the five-month-old laugh at least?
(Did the 5-month-old laugh at least?)
It's not a joke until someone laughs.
I thought she was only whining.
When I was young,
I went farming with my parents.
I did all the chores...
- Right. - and studied.
I stayed up all night to study.
- Right. - So,
I thought she should do it...
- by her age. - But she's not from that period.
Then even older ancestors say,
"That's nothing. When I was young,"
"I was a freedom fighter while being chased by the Japanese army."
Older ancestors go up to Joseon Dynasty.
There's no end to this.
(I was thoughtless.)
What do you think?
After speaking with your dad,
I'm sure there were things that frustrated you.
Yes, I was upset,
but I tried to understand him.
She tries to understand her father first.
We recently went on a trip together.
I wanted to take a picture with my dad.
I asked him to make a heart.
But he couldn't do it properly.
- Why not? - Like this.
- Oh, this one. - Oh, he couldn't do it.
- He can't do this? - No.
- Why not? - When...
my dad hurt his arm,
he couldn't get the proper treatment that it's stiff.
Then you could go like this.
But I wanted to do this.
It's not easy to stick them together.
(In the end, they made a little different hearts.)
There was a time when we lived apart...
from my husband because he was working overseas.
There was also a period of time when he was sick too.
Since my daughter was a little girl,
she helped me a lot and comforted me.
She...
- I see. - She's the jewel of your family.
You didn't think she had a serious problem.
You thought she was just whining.
- But that wasn't the case. - She always smiles...
while saying, "Mom, I'll do it. I'll help you."
As she said things like that...
(Her daughter hid her pain behind her smile.)
(Why couldn't I have noticed it earlier?)
My daughter has such a strong sense of responsibility,
which breaks my heart.
She thinks she should take care of...
- the whole family. - I see.
"I'll be 30 when Hwan Hee turns 15."
"I guess I'll have to pay his tuition."
She says things like that sometimes.
- My goodness. - I said,
"Why would you worry about it when we're here?"
She said, "You and Dad will have aged then."
"You two will be older than now."
- Gosh. - So...
she hopes to get a stable job in the future.
That's her hope for her future.
You must've been upset when she said that.
Of course I was.
- She's supposed to have a dream. - It's too realistic.
Exactly.
Out of everyone in this family,
your second child seems the happiest.
Hey, do you have any thoughts on your mind?
He's 10 years old.
- The second child. - You're sleepy, right?
What's your name?
It's Lee Ha Eon.
- Lee Ha Eon? - I see.
- Ha Eon, are you happy? - Yes.
I'm relieved that at least you are happy.
That's good.
Do you know why you're here?
Yes. To help my sister resolve her worry.
Does it only concern your sister?
- Only her? - Yes.
- Does it not concern you? - No.
Do you have any worries about your family?
- No. - I see.
(He's cute.)
When your little brother was born, were you happy...
or surprised?
I was happy.
- Why? - Why?
I was the youngest before, but he's the youngest now.
- Right. - Yes.
It feels like getting promoted...
- and getting benefits. - When he grows up,
you can make him do your errands.
(You can make him do your errands.)
(Smiling)
He seems so happy. He's smiling.
His face looks different.
Of course.
- The youngest always want that. - Exactly.
He imagined himself making his little brother run his errands.
"You're doomed."
If you're happy to have a little brother,
can't you look after him?
I look after him when my sister isn't home.
(Surprised)
- How do you look after him? - How do you look after him?
Do you change his diapers?
(Everyone looks forward to hearing his answer.)
I lie down next to him to talk to him.
(He lies down, so his little brother can hear him better.)
(He's unbelievable.)
"I see."
"You're my little brother."
"You'll run errands for me in the future."
Then...
- He's so adorable. - Then...
Isn't everyone curious about the youngest sibling?
- Is their five-month-old baby here? - Yes.
- Is he really here? - Yes.
- Oh, my. - Where is Hwan Hee?
He's so cute.
(Surprised)
There comes Hwan Hee.
(Hello.)
Shall I hold him for a while?
Come here.
- He's cute. - He's so cute.
He's adorable.
(Look here too.)
- He's so cute. - He looks like his dad.
How adorable. My goodness.
Show us how you look after him.
(How does she look after the baby?)
You can tell how skillful she is by seeing how she holds him.
My goodness.
- She looks like his mom. - She's skillful.
She's unbelievable.
That's right.
You said you sing for him.
(She bends her knees for her brother.)
- She sits down and stands up. - That's why her knees hurt.
Why do you do that?
He cries a lot if I stand still.
- Oh, he cries? - Yes.
Do you sing when he cries?
Do you lay him down and sing for him? Show us.
Let's see how Ha Eon talks to him after that.
- Show us how you talk to him. - Let's see how Ha Eon does it.
- Be prepared. - Put some cushions here.
(She starts singing to make him stop crying.)
He must've heard it many times.
(He seems happy and focused.)
(Dad calls you "Lee Hwan Hee")
Look how happy he seems.
(Mom calls you "my baby")
(He seems happy and immersed in her song.)
- Next up is Ha Eon. - Ha Eon, come here.
- Come here. - Show us how you look after him.
I'm so curious about...
- what he says to the baby. - Yes. Come here and show us.
- Be careful. - To the other side.
- Here we go. - He's so adorable.
- Lie down next to him. - Lie down.
- He's so adorable. - Lie down.
(You lie down too.)
- He's so adorable. - Look at him.
(What happened?)
(I'm on my way...)
(to you.)
(I'm the only person who knows how you feel.)
(I'm your big brother.)
(He lies down on his back.)
- Now, show us. - Bring him a mic.
Talk to him.
(He feels awkward.)
(I can't watch this.)
(Will the conversation finally begin?)
I really...
Comfort him.
- Talk to him. - Talk to him.
(As the baby cries, she reacts immediately.)
- Talk to him. - Talk to him.
Hey. Why aren't you doing anything?
He hates lying on the back.
- Sorry? - He hates lying on the back.
- Does he keep crying like this? - She seemed so natural.
- She went to him right away. - Then how about she sits down...
I think you should think of your brothers less...
and think of yourself more from now on.
Is there anything you want to do?
- Don't think of your family. - Right.
(Is there anything you want to do?)
No.
Is your family going through a very tough time financially?
Because only my husband...
has a job now,
it's true that it's not easy.
But that's not what a child should worry about.
Also, we paid off the debt...
from the failed business in August 2017.
Your parents paid off their debt.
- You should've... - Paying off a debt is hard.
- told her. Did you know? - You should've told her.
They paid off the debt last year.
- I didn't know. - You didn't know?
- She didn't know. - Why didn't you tell her that?
- She should've told her. - She should've told her.
But moms usually don't.
- Right. - You should tell her.
- Did you hear what your mom say? - Yes.
She wants you not to worry about the financial issues.
How do you think about that?
When I told my parents that I was stressed out,
my parents said they were stressed out too.
So I decided to help them out.
I think that's why.
When she said, "Mom, I'm stressed out",
I said, "I'm stressed out more than you."
When she said, "Mom, I'm going through puberty",
I said, "I'm going through menopause."
- She can't beat her mom. - Her mom wouldn't let her.
I can understand her mom and dad.
- And their daughter. - I understand her...
and the youngest son. But I can't understand Ha Eon.
I just can't.
He's the happiest person in the family.
The way I see it...
In my 20s and 30s...
I'm going to turn 40 soon.
And I can feel that I have a different capacity...
to deal with situations and emotions.
It seems to me that you treat your daughter...
like an adult just like you.
- Her daughter? - I think she treat her...
- as an adult, - Like a friend.
and so she relies on her...
- and vents to her. - That's right.
Even when both of them go through the same emotion,
the daughter can't control herself as well as her mom.
Ma'am, I'm going to ask you a straightforward question.
Which one do you rely on more? Your husband or your daughter?
Right now, to be honest,
I rely on my daughter more.
It's because...
I'm afraid my husband might fall ill again.
I think I put up a wall around myself.
I asked her to understand her dad as he was going through a hard time.
Sir, did you know...
that your wife relies more on your daughter...
than you?
I always feel apologetic towards my family.
If you think it's too much for your daughter,
you could be nicer to her...
and express your affection more often.
I... I'm not good at expressing my emotions.
- That can't be an excuse, sir. - I can't...
(What is there to hold you back when your daughter is in pain?)
I'm not good at expressing my love with words, but...
They say children learn from behind their parents.
You, her dad, never complimented her.
Nor did her mom.
I think there has been no one for her to rely on.
If there's something you want, tell your parents honestly.
What do you want from your dad?
He buys things I like for me...
and gives me allowance, which is very nice,
but he ruins everything with his words.
- The same goes for me. - Sir.
- Go on. - Exactly.
(Sir, keep quiet.)
Even if it's hard for him to express his affection,
I still want to hear him say he loves him.
- Of course. - Right.
That's what we need in life.
I want my mom to be more supportive...
of whatever I do.
I'm a cheerleader.
- You're a cheerleader? - Yes.
At school?
My mom said I should focus on studying instead of wasting time...
- on cheerleading. - She relieves stress by doing it.
But that's my own way to deal with stress...
that actually works.
(I want my mom to know that it's my way to handle stress.)
Sir, your daughter wants to hear you say you love her.
Can you say it to her?
- Yes, I can. - Tell her right now.
He speaks so nicely.
(Awkward)
(Ha Eon feels awkward too.)
Young Chae, I'm not good at expressing my affection.
I think that's why I didn't show my love for you often.
I'm sorry, Young Chae.
I'll try to be a good dad.
Young Chae, I love you.
(The words she's always wanted to hear, "I love you")
She loves it.
Look at her face, sir.
Her face just bloomed..
- Her depression is gone. - She looks alive.
Say something to your daughter.
Don't let your future...
burden you.
Your dad and I will take care of your siblings, so don't worry.
You should focus on walking towards your dreams.
- Okay. - Okay.
Please have the switch ready.
Do you think it's a worry, Min Sang?
When this goes on air,
everyone will compliment your daughter.
She will find it very helpful.
Her father and brother should avoid people for a while.
You should only take the alleys for a while.
It's a worry.
I think it's a worry.
- I don't think it is a worry. - No.
If you think it's worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Stop.
Pleas show us the result.
(Result)
Is it over 100 out of 200?
- It's a lot. - 100.
It's understandable the mother is startled.
114.
(114 votes)
So, "Please Stop It" wins this week.
("Please Stop It" wins.)
The winner will receive prize money.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("Siren" by Sun Mi)